Review: Sedeux Heart Harness & Silicone Dildo Set

Oh, nostalgia.

The Sedeux Heart Harness & Silicone Dildo Set was perhaps the first partner-intended sex toy that I ever bought, back in the baby days of my dykedom. I saw it in the store and thought "hey, why not?"

It looked unthreatening and easy to use for a beginner, which I very much was back then. It came with its own dildo included! What a deal! I think I even managed to get it for around $35, which should have been a clue, but back then I didn't know any better.

The toy comes with two parts, the harness and the dildo itself, which I will review separately. The packaging is clear plastic, and as I recall, not that hard to deal with. Upon opening, the harness itself had a faint plastic smell which soon faded.


The harness: Very lightweight. The heart portion of the harness which holds the O-ring is fairly small and made of very thin, almost pleather material. The O-ring itself is flexible rubber, held in place by four snaps attached to the heart. The straps are nylon and adjustable to fit up to 60" hips.

The O-ring is standard quality, and stretched to fit all the dildos I tried to put in it. The largest I ever tried was my Raquel, which is 1 5/8" in diameter at its widest point. The O-ring could have accommodated a bit more if needed.

The snaps that held the O-ring in place were quite flimsy, and eventually ended up breaking. Because of the nature of the snaps themselves, it also meant that whatever dildo i used was not held very firmly in place and tended to pull away from the harness because of the give in the attachments. That was enough to be distracting

The fit was all right, but the straps were not particularly comfortable; they tended to cut into my hips and thighs as I am a bit larger in those areas. It also didn't feel very secure, going along with the general theme of flimsiness of the harness in general.

I would rate the harness by itself a 1.5 of 5; it was decent for a beginner and held up for a while, but ended up breaking because of poor craftsmanship.


The dildo: Made of silicone, very small and easy to insert for someone who was not used to a lot of vaginal insertion (my girlfriend at the time). Solid feeling and very hardy; the silicone is definitely on the firmer end.

This is a dildo that I have kept since I bought it 4 years ago. It is very sturdy, and so far has no scratches or chips in the material. It's definitely on the smaller end - it measures 4" around by 5 3/4" long, with a supposed 5 1/2" insertable, but I find it very hard to get that close in any other position than someone riding on top of me. Any other position and you're looking at anywhere from 4 3/4" - 5" insertable. In short, not long enough to use from behind, which is a disappointment. It does work fine for missionary and someone on top, however.

It's definitely been a good item to have in our inventory, because it's small and unthreatening enough for even someone who is virginally tight to use. At only 4" circumference at its widest point, it's just big enough to be felt without stretching too much for someone who can't take a lot. For me, being a bit of a size queen, it's nowhere near enough to do anything (I can barely feel it unless it's moving), but for my girlfriend, who's not used to much of anything bigger, it works great, especially as a "warm-up" toy for something bigger. The material is non-porous, phthalates-free, and hypoallergenic, and we've had no problems with it so far.

I would rate the dildo alone a 4.5 of 5; I could wish for a little bigger of a base, especially when using it with a harness, but that's really my only complaint. For what it is (a very simple, basic dildo), it's awesome.


Overall, I would recommend to anyone looking to purchase a harness and dildo that they buy the two separately and of higher quality. It might cost more, but will last you longer in the end. On the other hand, if you're just looking for something to use every once in a while with your significant other and it's not something you want to invest in, this will last a while for infrequent use. The dildo is certainly worth keeping, though you an get something similar for just about the same price if you do some online shopping.

On sluts and casual sex

I've had a lot of casual sex in my life, especially over the past few years when I really came into my own sexually. It's not something I discuss at length with just anyone, though I am fairly open about things if anyone asks. It's just not something that's "acceptable" by our standards today, and anytime I do discuss it with someone I don't know well, the conversation seems to flow in a jokingly apologetic fashion, as if to say, "My god, don't you feel slutty?" "Oh, I know this is bad, but I'm such a rebel I'm doing it anyway! Isn't that exciting?"

Well yes, it is exciting, but not because it's forbidden or bad or wrong. It's exciting because I like to have sex, plain and simple. I like to have lots of different kinds of sex with lots of different kinds of people; it's exciting because I like expanding my experiences and horizons; it's exciting because it gives me the chance to push my boundaries. And if by "slutty" you mean "open to many sorts of experiences", "sexually adventurous", and *gasp* "actually enjoying having sex", then yes, I do feel that way.

What I am not is immoral, sick, self-destructive, or incapable of commitment. I take safety very seriously, never take risks that I am not comfortable with or that would put me in real danger, and have had good emotional connections with many (though not all) of my partners. This is not, I should add, something that is vital to "good" or "moral" sex in my opinion; I've had some amazing experiences with one-night stands who I never spoke to again. The whole idea of sex as this huge deal that must be treated with almost holy reverence is ridiculous. Yes, sex can be sacred, and has been for me on many occasions. However, it is also silly, messy, dirty, clumsy, and hilarious, and in the end is just one more way for two (or more!) people to interact with one another as human beings, no matter the depth of emotional involvement. I do think that commitment is important, but simply not something that is necessary for a sexual encounter or three.

The whole concept is expressed very eloquently in this post by Greta Christina, and I don't have a lot to say on the subject that she hasn't already expressed other than I'm glad that I've come to all of these realisations early on in life. I have nothing to be ashamed of, and yes, I will own my slutdom. I also will continue to happily pursue any guys or gals who catch my fancy, with the full blessing of my girlfriend of just over a year. Fun and exciting? Yes. Unconventional? Most certainly. Immoral? Absolutely not. As long as everything is safe, sane, and consensual (a theme you will hear repeated throughout this blog), I am of the firm belief that everyone is entitled to all the fun they can handle, and have no plans to change anytime soon.